Not liking sex

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Topic started by James S (shyguy)

photoI'm 38 yrs old and quite shy..i live in Halesowen in West Mids and have only just come out(to myself). Looking to make new friends, particularly with a view to perhaps going out onto the gay scene in Birmingham occasionally or those into sport, and other social activities.

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shyguyWed 21/12/11 11:24

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Can anyone relate to this?

Although I fancy men I don't really enjoy sex at all..

Despite feeling very horny around someone I find attractive I feel that I could only enjoy sex if I was basically female..I certainly don't regard myself as being a transexual although even when I was very young I always used to fantasise about being with men but as part of a heterosexual couple(with me being the female)...of course gender and sexuality are hardly the same anyway..Is this a fairly common thing..

Just wondered if anyone could relate to this?

ollysugarWed 21/12/11 11:46

 

I think there is an almost arbitrary distinction made between sexuality and sensuality; being in close physical proximity, intimate, if you like.

It doesn't have to be about insertion and ejaculation, though I do think it does taker something of a reappraisal of expectations to find it satisfying. It takes patience, and it takes courage to draw one's boundaries

maguaWed 21/12/11 11:58

 

Most of the time I dont think of my self as positively having a gender. That said I do enjoy the role my biology predetermins for me. It is fun fucking like a man, and beings as I cant fuck like a woman, what else is there to do?

My advice is just to make the most of your male sex organs and find a man who willing t except that you might have certain sexual needs.

ollysugarWed 21/12/11 12:05

 

There is more to intimacy than fucking though.

martnthlondWed 21/12/11 12:47

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Is there Olly? ;)

ollysugarWed 21/12/11 12:53

 

quoting > "Is there Olly?"

So I have found, Jean Marc; that's not to say fucking isn't nice, though...

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