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Topic started by Wandering Star (lenvdb)

I love God with all my heart. That is what Sagittarius is about. That and travel. But church is not working for me. As christianity and astrology and reincarnation dont really go together. And then I became a Vegetarian who meditates! I would get burnt on the stake for what I believe and then churches ask me to leave... I have discovered some cool stuff relating to God - An ancient path. Would love to talk

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lenvdbSun 25/11/07 12:50

You know your boyfriend is engaging in extra-sexual activities behind your back but is dishonest to you about it?

There was a time in my life a number of years ago, when I got hurt badly. As a result I became careful and caution of getting into a relationship. I myself have been through the motions: You fall hopelessly in love; The both of you are happy, and then the other party begins to drift away when the novelty and infatuation wears off.

As a result you become careful. You build a little wall and you enter into the relationship with caution with a new partner. You promise yourself you will not allow yourself to get hur again. You explain to your new partner you love him, and that this love will grow, but you are not necesarily "in love" with him.

A year later my love had grown, the little wall had been broken down and I became intensely fond of him and loved him to bits. Now he now longer shares the love and does not reciprocate. It is natural for people to drift apart. I am mature enough to know that a relationship requires work to keep the spark alive. But it means both need to make it work. God knows I have been trying.

The relationship has developed to the stage where I know his family will never accept me in his life as a partner. So a civil partnership has flown out the window, despite a proposal many years ago: "Will you marry me?" to which I said yes.

He is now engaging in extra-sexual activities, our interests are light-years apart, and I focus on living a good moral/spiritual life avoiding temptations out there etc. and developing a relationship with the Divine.

So is it time for us now to take stock, count our losses and split up?

I cannot fathom living my life in a negativity zestpit of suspicion and distrust. This will kill me.

Do I wait until I feel the time is right and talk? I hurt like hell now, but I also feel there is no need to throw a tantrum, explode or react negatively to this. I would much rather discuss the future in a calm and collected manner and walk away without judgeing him and still have love and forgiveness in my heart for him. Time will heal the wounds but at least over time perhaps I can face him again and be friends.

Maybe, who knows? Perhaps he will find someone better out there for him?

Would this be a sensible approach?

Len

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