Friend or Foe?

cab1979Fri 05/10/07 12:53

I have recently challenged a friend about his behaviour towards me, this in its self is a major thing for me as im the kind that "shuts up and puts up" to keep from rocking the boat.

Basically my friend and I have know each other for around ten years, the last 6 years we have become, what i thought good strong friends. Travelled the world, we shared a house, and have spent most weekend out on the lick or away somewhere.

Ive noticed a change in his behavious i the last few months, and feel that hes perhaps embarrassed by me.

Of late ive felt that he has taken me for granted and used me as and when it suits. Its normally me that would text to ask how his days been and suggest days and nights out. Hi has a myspace profile which he has filled with pictures of himself in model like poses to which hes entitiled. Hes a good looking guy and the profile attracts good looking guys, again not a problem. But the problem occurs when he stops or deletes postings or comments from me that put refference to things that we may of done, such as "thanks for a great weekend". The same goes for Facebook. Facebook he didnt link friends with me until I asked did he not want to. He then hastly added me and said he added me ages ago. The times showed it was ten minutes after I asked why. I feel that he must be embarrassed by me or something, or I dont fit into the image hes trying to portray or the guys he wants to attract.

I feel eveything has to be carefully edited before I can be allowed to join in, I think this was the case with Facebook as its like im not allowed to know certain things.

It turned out a few weeks ago that another friend of mine said that one of their mates was dating my friend, I thought ok, maybe he doesnt want to say anything so I will leave it. A week or so went by and I mentioned that someone had said he was dating, and asked how it was all going and all about him. I was told he wasnt dating at all. From that point on he didnt speak to me for a week ignored my texts and then when he found out went for a date I was suddenly told all about this guys and that it wasnt love, not even fancy, just someone hes dating because theres an attraction, and he hardly ever sees him.

I basically last week got fed up with the cloak and dagger and what i feel one sided way our friendship is working of late and told him how I felt using the myspace/facebook/texts as examples. I said I was finding the f`ship hard work and I odnt want to be in something that was hard work. I asked if we could meet up and chat, I was told no because he has done nothing wrong, and basically I had thrown all my toys out the pram and had to live with the fact id chosen to end it. He now ignores my texts and calls and wont even discuss it. When I said that as a friend he should be able to listen to my concerns he ignored me again.

Should i just walk away now and have done with it? The thing is i have enjoyed his company but at the same time I dont want this hassle.

#202651Fri 05/10/07 12:59

Well you've tried to talk to him and he's clearly not interested.

No need punishing yourself for his bad behaviour - so, yeah, time to walk away I'm afraid.