Activly Single

pj1970Fri 26/09/08 10:50

What does being Activly single mean tou you?

To me I had it with the chase as seem to be chasing me own tail at times and not realising what is around me. So going to be happy single and live my life instead of letting that illusive search for Mr Right take over my world.

To catch up with friends I have made this year.
To catch with old friends who i almost lost touch with
To see what is around me that I can experience and see what life has to offer.

I think that we as people tend to spend too much time on gaydar and other sites for that 5 minute fix we forget about our own happiness and not living our own lives.

My reccomendation is that delete all profiles and start looking outside into the real world and find new ways or even old ways to enjoy our existence on this planet. Not to say those profiles are bad but in my instance I found myself glued to the net and not getting anywhere fast, nothing real and meaningful anyway.

fitguy_pompeyFri 26/09/08 11:01

I guess I am 'actively' single, which to me means just getting on with life as normal. Okay I spend time on the net (who doesn't - but also getting on with real world stuff too.

At this moment, I am not the least bit bothered that I'll be dating anyone, or getting in to a relationship, and am fairly convinced that will not be happening to me.

mathiusFri 26/09/08 11:03

i think there is room for both, no reason to delete all your profiles, just have a healthy mixture of both. I enjoy all the above things, but i'd rather be out with my friends than sitting in on gaydar etc but its there for when you are not doing anything else on a weekday night, nd a i have met some really nice friends and bfs from the interweb.

pj1970Fri 26/09/08 11:05

quoting > "I guess I am 'actively' single, which to me means just getting on with life as normal. Okay I spend time on the net [who doesn't - but also getting on with real world stuff too.

At this moment, I am not the least bit bothered that I'll be dating anyone, or getting in to a relationship, and am fairly convinced that will not be happening to me."

Ive dated twice this year and almost a 3rd. with me i suppose that i felt i out to be with someone instead of getting used to my own company and have the confidence in being just me. I found internet very addictive and filling in the gaps that lack of a relationship left, when going out i not wanted to know any one who is interested in me as i already had my fix. THIS DOES NOT WORK FOR ME... i have decided and thus deleted my somewhat hot profiles an dgoing to concentrate on my growth as a person.... not to say i will not go back to it but at the moment not right for me.

carriefaveFri 26/09/08 11:34

there is nothing wrong with being on the net as it is a cheap way of getting in touch with people but yes there can be a danger of spending too much time on this site and other ones...

but hey it is always nice to send someone a friendly hello and to offer advice to those who need it....

maybe there should be a health warning on the site but not everyone is confident on going out to the scene or they choose not to so it is a good way for people to chat and say hi.....

i have met some great people on this site and i always love saying hi and hope they are doing fine....

i work in a call centre so i hate using my phone after work so this site is useful in that respect....

#37394Fri 26/09/08 11:51

"My reccomendation is that delete all profiles and start looking outside into the real world and find new ways or even old ways to enjoy our existence on this planet. Not to say those profiles are bad but in my instance I found myself glued to the net and not getting anywhere fast, nothing real and meaningful anyway"

I have to agree with pj1970. I am getting bored of it all. Too much time waisted on the net and on - the "we people".
"we" can do this "we" can to that....

One or two can "we" off as far as im concerned.

I think I maybe a bit moody today :{

#210865Fri 26/09/08 12:22

I've never heard of the term so don't really know what to say.

Just as long as you're living life the way you want to then be whatever you want to be.

It's only a label, afterall.

pj1970Fri 26/09/08 12:26

quoting > "I've never heard of the term so don't really know what to say."

it is a term that popped up in my heard after i got clarity from deleting my pervy profiles. Activly Single to me reflects the positivness of being single and accepting whats happening (or not) around you and not necessarily looking for Mr Right or anyone in fact. Just Embracing being Single and start enjoying yourself and sharing yourself about with those who actually matters in your life.